Online dating advice: better profile headlines

There is more than one approach to writing a profile headline.

Your headline could describe what you are looking for. Here are a couple of good examples:

Seeking walks, talks and hugs – a straight headline but it tells the reader a lot what the member seeks in a partner.

Looking for an upbeat, positive, friendly person – once again a straight headline and very specific in terms of what’s being sought.

Seeking soul mate – a lot of people don’t like this headline but I honestly think it’s okay, if that’s what you’re actually looking for. However, if you use this headline be sure to be interesting and detailed in your actual profile. In other words, tell the reader what you think your soul mate will be like.

Looking for gentle giant/Looking for sassy girl – again, pretty clear in terms of what the member wants.

Use a headline to make a statement or request. This kind of headline is in a sense a combination headline. It says something about you and also describes what you are looking for. Here are a few of examples:

The world is my oyster – this person sounds like an explorer and ready to explore.

Let’s plunder the pot of gold – someone who is ready for adventure and who wants to share the great things life has to offer with a close companion.

Let’s get our boots muddy together – this person wants to wander off the beaten track in life and experience the wild and unusual.

Ask a question. A question headline creates curiosity and a bit of intrigue about your profile and who you are.

What’s the worst that could happen? – this restores the light-heartedness to dating that is so often missing because it can be loaded with expectations. At worst you could have a boring hour with someone not your type. At best you could meet the love of your life!

Can you restore my belly laugh? – here’s someone who definitely connects on the basis of humour. If you strike a cord with each other it could be great.
Fancy a film? – at first it sounds too basic but it’s good because that’s how great dates start, a shared enjoyment of something you both like.

Use humour or your favourite quote. I’ve said this before, you’ve got to be careful with humour because if it goes wrong it can go badly wrong. So play it safe and if you’re not sure, don’t use it.

However, here are some good examples to spur your creative juices:

Profile under construction – funny because it plays on the early days of the Internet when websites were never quite ready. Maybe this is a person in flux. Check out their profile again for new info.

Some like it hot – the title of one of Marilyn’s classics. Intriguing and inviting.

Can I borrow a bowl of sugar? – and why not?! You never know what might happen with the profile next door.

I wandered lonely as a cloud – lovely and romantic from the William Wordsworth poem, slightly sad too.

Dolce vita – the sweet life and someone’s looking to share it.

Only love interests me, and I am only in contact with things I love – a quote from the artist Marc Chagall, quite deep too. Whoever uses this line is pretty serious about love!

I hope these ideas help. Forget the headlines like Hello, or I’m John. Worst of all don’t leave the headline space blank, or fill it with a series of random characters. It just tells readers you can’t really be bothered. No-one stops to read a profile with an empty headline slot or a repeated run of keyboard characters.

Use a bit of imagination. Practice for an hour or so, and pick what you believe is the best. You’ll have something that really does grab the attention of the people you hope to meet, and that’s the first step in getting them to read your profile.

Online dating profile advice: good profile headline examples

Yesterday I wrote about the kinds of profile headlines that probably shouldn’t be used.I asked you to think about describing yourself in a sentence and from that coming up with catchy headline.It sounds harder than it really is. Once you start writing down your thoughts, ideas will come to you. Your probably won’t like the first few ideas you come up with (but maybe you will)! However, after a few lines you’ll be pretty close to what you are looking for.

Here are some examples of good headlines:

Smiles! Lots of them – this says so much about the member. It tells you that they are happy and enjoy life and happiness is important to them.

Skeptical, but intrigued – it’s pretty clear this person isn’t too sure about Internet dating. But they are putting themselves out there and will give it a chance. This is someone who is open to trying new things in life.

Up for recycling – this is cute and funny. It shows that the member is into being Green, and also that she/he has had relationships before but is ready to try again.

It’s more fun together – a basic thing that we sometimes forget; life IS more fun when the company feels just right. This person wants to explore life with a companion.

Friendly, fun, spontaneous and happy – straightforward and it works too because it says so much.

Leaps small buildings in a single bound – a pretty energetic and possibly ambitious person. This headline reveals a great deal about the person’s outlook on life.

Next time I will write about how to take different approaches to profile headline writing.

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Writing a profile headline

What grabs your attention when you look at profiles on a dating website?

First it is the photo, and then the profile headline. Most people look at the pic, read the headline and then make a decision weather or not to read further.

So writing a good headline is really important. Other members will read it, and react to it. And of course you want their reaction to be a positive one. Continue reading

Putting the finishing touches on your profile

If you’ve read this far you’ll realise that putting together a good profile for a dating website can mean the difference between receiving messages and being ignored.

You should now have substance of your profile – your best qualities. You’ve written them in an interesting and engaging way, as outlined in yesterday’s post.

Now you need to put your profile together. Think of it like a mini story. It needs a beginning, middle and end. Introduce yourself. This doesn’t mean give your name. It means offering an interesting opening line. For example: “Energetic hiker and movie buff looks forward to the future and a new partner”. Continue reading

Online dating advice: writing that winning profile.

A successful dating website profile has to be honest. And I’m not talking about brutally honest. But you’ve got to be able to give a positive, interesting and colourful sense of who you are.

Remember, there are thousands of people competing with you for the person you want hope to meet. You’ll need to stand out from the crowd. Your objective is not just to be added to someone’s favourites list – you want that person to write to you.

Before you write your advert, think about what’s important to you and who you’d like to meet. What makes you a special person, someone worth getting to know?What do you have to offer another person, and what are you looking for in a date or partner?
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