Online dating scams: use of language a strong clue

The most obvious thing about scammers is the type of language they use in their messages.

Quite often the start off with “Hello Dear”, or they use words of love, affection and familiarity that a non-scammer would not use when making contact with another member for the first time.

Their use of English is usually quite poor and this is because often the scammers are from Africa (and in particular Nigeria) and Russia and former Soviet states.

The tone is too friendly and familiar and sometimes there is an immediate expression of love within the first few messages.  As most of us know, love takes time to grow.  Even if you believe in love at first sight, you have to meet the person first!  But scammers are in a hurry and want to push the contact and connection, regardless of what you want.  This is because they want to accomplish their goal of ripping you off and then disappearing as quickly as possible.

More on scammers to follow soon.

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Online dating scams and scammers; how to spot them and report them

This blog is going to publish a series of articles to help members (and anyone who uses a dating website) spot scams and fake members.

The series will address a number of things such as types of scams to look for, the techniques scammers use, and the typical language and style of their messages. The first article will appear tomorrow.

We hope that by having more information like this members of our site will be better able to spot a scam or fake message.

Date Positive takes scammers and scams very seriously and we do our best to spot scams, remove them from the site and report them to the police if necessary.

Every profile submitted is individually checked by a human being, person, and we respond quickly to member complaints.

If you think you have received a message from a scammer, the first thing to do is stop writing to them and contact site administration and provide us with the potential scammer’s username and contents of the message.

Remember, never, ever send money to someone you do not know via the internet.  Date Positive cannot be responsible for your actions if you do respond to a scammer.

If there is anything else you would like us to talk about in this series, let us know at

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Online dating customer service at

One of the biggest thing that bugs me about life in the UK is the generally poor customer service.

You all know what I’m talking about. The sales people who carry on a conversation while you’re waiting to be served, the service rep who doesn’t listen, and businesses that don’t return your phone calls.

It’s a frustrating state of affairs and one that really stands out after trips to North America, where customer service is excellent.

So at we’ve made a commitment to always provide excellent customer service.  I know, it’s easy for a business to make that kind of promise.  What exactly does it mean?

It means that we’re on hand to respond to member questions and/or problems within 12 hours, and more quickly if it’s urgent.  We always follow-up concerns and if technical problems are reported we check them out thoroughly – although that’s a pretty rare occurrence.

We also give members advice and support when it comes to online dating. This means helping with profiles, responding to concerns, preventing as best we can, unscrupulous members being on the site, and adding additional features and extra value.

If a business is going to survive in these tough and competitive times, excellent customer service gives a strong edge over the competition.  And it also means our members have a better experience when they are a part of the community.