Type of herpes

Q. How can I tell what kind of herpes I have? My doctor doesn’t seem to think it is important for me to differentiate.

Also, I have endometriosis – could herpes affect this?

A. A swab or blood test can differentiate type one from type two and it is important to know this because you can then predict the prognosis. Herpes probably does not affect endometriosis. Dr Laurence Gerlis

Herpes outbreak during pregnancy

Q. What happens if I have an outbreak when I am pregnant?

Can having herpes affect my baby before it is born?  What if I have an outbreak when I am due to deliver? - A datepositive.net member

A. A baby can pick up herpes on vaginal delivery, and if there is an outbreak in late pregnancy this may be an indication for Caesarian birth.

Otherwise herpes in pregnancy is not a problem for the baby.  Medication maybe given if the outbreak is severe and after the first three months, but this would only be used in extreme cases. - Dr Laurence Gerlis

Is it safe to meet people using online dating sites?

Q. What is you view of online dating?  I have not done this before and am concerned about people on the site.  It is hard for me to meet new people in my work and this seems like a good idea.

But reading a description and not knowing someone leads me to be uncertain.

Do you think there are things a person can do to improve chances of meeting? - A Datepositive member.

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Learning how to trust again after discovering your boyfriend gave you herpes

Q. Hi, I’ve just joined this site and discovered that I have a real issue with trust.

My ex partner gave me herpes and I had no idea he had it.  He said he did not know and must have been asymptomatic but I am not sure I believe him.  Everyone on this site obviously has some kind of STD but I realise this has affected my ability to trust people, especially men.

What can I do to help regain trust again if I want to have a relationship?  I feel stuck and don’t know if I can move forward. - A datepositive.net member Continue reading

Online dating photo tips: add a pic for a free upgrade/extention

A lot of people who join our site are still unsure about adding a photo. They feel it’s too unsafe to do so and don’t want to risk anyone seeing their picture.

This is really a sad state of affairs but it does underline the degree of prejudice and stigma that exists in our society towards people with HIV and herpes.

A few people have emailed me and said they are adamant they will not add a photo to their profile. I do reassure them and explain our safety mechanisms, but they are still not convinced. Continue reading