Helping to Heal the wounds of mistrust and betrayal; issues surrounding HIV, Herpes and other STDs.

The emotional impact of discovering that you have herpes or HIV can, for some people, outweigh the physical health issues one has to deal with.

Many people have found out that they have herpes from a partner or former partner who has not been open about their health condition, and the sense of betrayal can be profound and even damaging.

This hiv dating and herpes dating site has collected stories of site members and used them (with permission and anonymously) with the media. This work has helped break the stigma attached to having and STD. It has also given people an outlet to express their feelings.

One woman told the site that her boyfriend gave her herpes and she was left devastated by the experience and found it hard to trust people.  She said that herpes dating site Datepositive gave her a sense of hope about her future and new opportunities to meet people.

A woman who is HIV positive revealed her status to her work manager due to the need for doctor’s appointments, but then found herself being harassed for taking time off work. A man living in Scotland almost became destitute after becoming HIV positive. He became too ill to work and admitted to selling drugs in a desperate attempt to support himself.

To help deal with these issues, Datepositive has secured a fully qualified counsellor, Frankie Hall, to provide support to members. Questions can be sent to Frankie without revealing a name, and the questions and answers are posted on the website blog. A fully qualified sexual health specialist, Dr. Laurence Gerlis, provides answers to questions about health conditions.

One woman said that life became intolerable after she got herpes, and the opportunity to email site members and seek support from a counsellor made all the difference.  You can read some of the member stories at

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This is, we believe, the lowest price subscription of any STD dating site in the UK, and possibly world-wide.

The sale will last until July 14 and is offering new members and existing ones an opportunity to upgrade at an incredible price. The special offer is a response to the economic downturn and an attempt to give people real value for money with the site. Continue reading – First STD dating site in UK shows strong growth

Online dating has firmly established its place in our culture. It is everywhere – advertised on billboards, busses, in magazines and, of course, online. It’s talked about at work, on Facebook and in the pub. Gone are the days when dating websites carried a stigma or when people believed they were only used by the lonely or desperate.

The change in attitude is striking and has come about for many reasons. Despite technology easing our lives, people in the UK are working harder and longer than ever before. Family commitments mean people are doing a lot more with their kids these days, and many adults are caring for aging parents too.

In addition the UK’s divorce rate – though the lowest since 1977 – is still high, in fact the highest in Europe. In 2009 10.5 of 1,000 married people got divorced in 2009.* And these figures don’t even include co-habiting couples who split, or married couples who separate but stay under the same roof because one can’t afford to leave.

How, then, do you find a date or romance when your life is time-strapped and close encounters are hard to come by? Online dating is the answer. It provides an easy and affordable option. It’s as simple as selecting the dating site that feels right for you, registering and creating an interesting profile. Then spend some time searching and sending messages and you could soon be on your first date!

Even more striking is the fact that while online dating once carried a stigma, it actually provides a solution to people with conditions that can bring about rejection or judgement. STDs are a case in point. People with herpes or HIV have a very difficult time dating or meeting new partners. Many are rejected after revealing they have an STD. Some are so hurt that they decide to live alone rather than risk the pain brought about by ‘that’ conversation.

There are many STD dating sites. The UK’s first,, was launched in 2006 and now has more than 5,000 members. Some members have met their partners and married through the site, while others have developed close and supportive friendships. The site also provides free access to a counsellor, Frankie Hall, and a sexual health specialist, Dr Laurence Gerlis. Its blog contains some moving stories about members who have really struggled with having an STD. Other stories are uplifting and tell of new partners and marriage.

People who use HIV dating and herpes dating sites are just like anyone else. They’ve tried all the usual ways of meeting new people and decided that instead a specialist website is the way to go. Their profile makes it clear what STD they have and therefore they don’t have to meet and worry about rejection. It’s a clear advantage and the members feel safe, secure and are in control.

• Office of National Statistics.

Youtube clip tells Datepositive member’s story

This Youtube video was produced by a company for TrueTube and then posted on It tells the story of a women who is a member of and how she got herpes from her boyfriend. It’s a sad story, and at the same time a warning about the risk of getting herpes when someone is asymtomatic (ie not showing symptoms) – as was the case with this woman’s former boyfriend.

The good news is that the woman featured met new friends on and is now in a relationship.