We had another women free offer running for a few months.

These offers run from time to time because women are more hesitant about online dating and we want to encourage women to try the site.

However, after a while spammers get the better of us. They become wise to the offers and exploit the opportunity for their own gain. It’s an annoying and frustrating situation.

Generally the emails are from people who want to get members to send them money.  This type of email has increased in recent weeks, and so we’ve decided to end the offer.

It’s sad really because otherwise the promotion has been a success.  We’ve had many more women join the site and a lot more interaction between members.

What we can do for the moment is keep proces very low and work towards a planned software upgrade, which will take place later this year.

Q. It took me a long time to realise something was wrong and after getting tested I learned I had trich.

Are there risks because it was left untreated for so long? - A datepositive.net member.

A. Trichomonas is easily treated and does not cause long term damage – there should be no problem arising from the delay in treatment. - Dr. Laurence Gerlis.

Q. Which is the best kind of condom? Is it latex or polyurethane?  Do they protect against STDs? A datepositive.net member.

A. It is not the type of condom but the way it is used that matters.  Properly used, condoms significantly reduce the transmission of STDs.

However, there are skin contacts outside the condom area and I have seen Herpes, HPV and mollluscum transmitted in this way despite condom use.

Improper use of condoms include:  not using it until penetration (ie some unprotected sex before), not using it till orgasm, condom breaking, condom slipping off, infection creeping around the sides of a condom.  So you are still at risk even with a condom. - Dr. Laurence Gerlis.

Q. I have started seeing someone who does not have herpes (I do). He is unsure about us sleeping together and to be honest I don’t blame him.

I don’t want to pressure him. I had one outbreak and that was it. If I had warning symptoms of a future outbreak or another outbreak we would not have sex. If he uses a condom while I don’t have any blisters, will he be ok?

What else can we do to reduce his risk of getting herpes?  Is there anything I can do to reduce the chances of another outbreak? - A Datepositive.net member

A. If you have only had one outbreak that is encouraging suggesting type 1 herpes.

Although you can transmit without symptoms (internal lesions), the fact that you do not get recurrence reduces the risk of transmission.  If your first attack was within the last year, you should use a condom.

Keeping your general health good (plenty of sleep, reduce stress, alcohol and nicotine etc) will reduce your chances of another outbreak. - Dr. Laurence Gerlis

We have just launched a summer sale running until July 15.

The sale offers recession-proof prices for new members and existing members too.

And we have decided to have this sale to help people have a better chance at finding new friends and love.

As the economy stumbles along, we thought we would give members and potential members a break with very low prices.

A three-month membership is now £5.00, six-months £9.95; twelve-months £17.95.

If you are an existing member and paid full price for an upgrade in the last week, contact us and we will give you another month for free.

Remember, the sale ends July 15 – so take advantage of these great prices.