Parents reject me because of HIV; ask the Counsellor

Q. My parents are very cold to me since I told them I was HIV positive. They said I was irresponsible and let them down.

I am successful in every aspect of my life but do not have a partner. Their rejection has hurt but as they get older I realise I need to sort out this situation and at least visit them sometimes. I am also very lonely and would like to talk to them occasionally. - A Datepositive member.

A. Congratulations on being successful in every aspect of your life. Not many of us can say that.

However, I note that you are very lonely, you do not have a partner and you would like to talk sometimes with your parents who are very cold to you since you told them you were hiv positive.  You say you need to visit them sometimes, so maybe that could be a good starting point.

Your parents sound meaningful to you.  Perhaps you could tell them this and say that life for you could be so much better with their support and you would very much value this from them.  Give them time.  If you still feel rejection from them, still believe in yourself and remember your achievements and respect yourself for the person you are.

There are many other sufferers of hiv out there, many good loving and true people.  Look on the online (as you are now).  Focus on what is right for you and go for it. - Frankie Hall, MBACP, DipCouns., DipEd.

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