Radio 4 programme explores HIV in women over 50

The increase in HIV amongst women was explored in women over 50 on Radio 4′s Women’s Hour last Monday.

The programme highlighted some big and important issues, such as lack familiarity with symptoms, not knowing you’ve been infected by a partner or former partner (and struggling with the consequental sense of betrayal), and financial security.

The number of women over 50 with HIV is increasing, and the health and financial implications are significant and a concern in many countries.

It’s very worthwhile taking time to listen to the programme which makes an interesting and moving discussion. As well, it prompts people – either female or male – to seriously consider seeing a financial planner to review budgets and pensiion provisions.

The programme can be found here: http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b00vkpk8.

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