Online dating photo tips: add a pic for a free upgrade/extention

A lot of people who join our site are still unsure about adding a photo. They feel it’s too unsafe to do so and don’t want to risk anyone seeing their picture.

This is really a sad state of affairs but it does underline the degree of prejudice and stigma that exists in our society towards people with HIV and herpes.

A few people have emailed me and said they are adamant they will not add a photo to their profile. I do reassure them and explain our safety mechanisms, but they are still not convinced. Continue reading

Online dating sites vs dating on social networking

I am always reading, particularly about online trends, new applications, and new software. It is necessary when you are involved with a site like

It is also addictive. A habit that is hard to reduce, probably because you think you might miss something.

In particular I have followed the online dating v social networking discussion that has been around for three or four years. When this debate first began online the direction wasn’t clear.

However, lots of writers predicted that social networking sites would over-shadow the online dating industry. And it was easy to see how the massive rise of sites such as Myspace, Facebook, and Twitter could somehow produce an alternative to traditional dating sites.

After all, online dating is truly an institution in the world of the web. Sites like and are close to a decade old now, existing from the web 1.0 age.

And yet, they have shown staying power. Site owners who are willing to change and adapt can exist and grow.

No-one can predict the future, but I think that online dating sites will exist for many years to come.  If the sites are able to meet specific needs, work in niche markets and respond to what people are looking for then users will be happy to pay a reasonable membership fee.

I also think that privacy issues will continue to affect sites like Facebook in the future. People will continue to tighten control on who sees their profile information and who they communicate with. Dating sites that respect members’ privacy and maintain site security are better positioned to deal with privacy concerns.

So the outcome is far from certain, despite the length of time the discussion has continued. For our site we know that there is a need and we experience steady growth. Our challenge is to build on this growth and plan for the future.

Online dating profile tips

Dating sites have been around for a long time now. Yet it is surprising that so many people use them but don’t make the best of the service.

Why waste time in joining if you are not going to give it a decent shot? Here are a few pointers on how to make the best of online dating and give yourself a reasonable chance at success.

Post a photo. I know lots of people don’t want to upload a photo on But it IS safe and secure. A photo makes your profile stand out. Or even just the knowledge that you have uploaded photo makes a difference.

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Women free offer at ends

We had another women free offer running for a few months.

These offers run from time to time because women are more hesitant about online dating and we want to encourage women to try the site.

However, after a while spammers get the better of us. They become wise to the offers and exploit the opportunity for their own gain. It’s an annoying and frustrating situation. Continue reading

Risks of trichomonas; member gets advice from Dr Gerlis

Q. It took me a long time to realise something was wrong and after getting tested I learned I had trich.

Are there risks because it was left untreated for so long?

A. Trichomonas is easily treated and does not cause long term damage – there should be no problem arising from the delay in treatment. - Dr. Laurence Gerlis.