Dating advice: things women really don’t want to complain about

So you’ve been on datepositive.net for a while and you’ve started dating?

That’s great.  If you are looking for a relationship, either short or long term, it’s worthwhile addressing one of the things that can quickly destroy a good thing – complaining, better known as nagging.

This week, datepositive.net will take a look at the things women complain about in regards to men.  Firstly though it seems that men do think that women like to complain or nag.  I am pretty sure that isn’t true and would like to suggest that the solution is we all try to complain a bit less and try harder to make a partner’s happy, then that’s a good start.

Remember, complaining or criticising can destroy a good thing, so try to keep your relationship a happy and nag-free one.

Too much swearing: Women are guilty of this too.  But it seems that some men use really bad language too often in front of women and for the most part most women don’t like it – especially if there are kids around.

Helping with tidying up or housework: OK, so you are just dating and it’s still a pretty romantic time. Nevertheless, if you help around her place a bit, you can show that you’re a team player and and care about her, especially at the end of a long day.

Expecting her to tidy your place: Connected to the point above is expecting your girlfriend to tidy your place.  If you have had a really busy time and she wants to help out, that’s one thing. But dating a woman in the hopes that she will tidy your mess or cook for you is a big no-no.

Leaving the toilet seat up: This is an old one and it is usually number one of most people’s list.  It’s not just that the seat is up, sometimes a guy’s aim isn’t quite right and the splashing is off-putting.  Women particularly don’t like the seat being left up at night when the might use the toilet in the dark.

Leaving your clothes all around your room: Expecting a romantic and hot night with your girlfriend?  Don’t expect her to be too thrilled to go into your room and find your stuff everywhere, or dirty dishes lying about. Take time to tidy up a bit – it doesn’t have to be perfect – and she will be impressed.

Bringing dirt into the house: This is usually about not wiping feet and/or leaving shoes on.  More and more this is an accepted form of behaviour now when entering someone’s house.  So if you’ve been hiking, gardening or messing around in the garage, give your shoes a quick wipe.

So guys, check out this list and give it a bit of consideration. Women hate to nag, so don’t make it easy for them. Keep the criticisms out of the relationship and love is sure to grow.

Next time around – the things men complain about.

A bit of effort with your online dating profile goes a long way

Lots of people join datepositive.net every week, but only a few will have success.

These members may blame the other members or the actual site, but my guess is that they haven’t put enough effort into their online profile.

Now, I know I have written a lot about this in the past, but the message is one that can’t be delivered too often. Making an effort with your profile and including the right things can really lead to success.

In fact, I have to say that whenever I get feedback from people with success stories they are usually the ones who have a pretty good profile and who have made contact with others.

So after managing this hiv dating and herpes dating site for almost five years, here are a few things that seem to come up time and time again with profiles. Paying some attention to these potential problems won’t take a lot of time and could make your membership really worthwhile.

1. Pick a good username, something that tells other members something about you. Just using your name or a mix of letters and numbers isn’t going to help anyone. Remember, your profile will be glanced at in the search results. Which profile would you be tempted to read? Sunshine_and_smiles, or hsn46?

2. A big turn off is writing a list of what you don’t want, and then referring to the reader as you, as in You will be outgoing, etc. Now, we all know that no one wants to date a loser or a heavy drinker. But writing a list of characteristics you won’t entertain is very off-putting and makes you sound too fussy.

3. Don’t copy other chunks of text from other people’s profiles. If someone is searching the site they are going to see that your profile (or the other one you’ve copied) isn’t unique and changes are neither one of you will get any attention. Besides, you are you and people want to hear about who you are.

4. These days more than one photo is usually not enough. Invest in some good pictures showing you in different settings and tag the pictures too, saying where you are. This is especially good if you like to travel.

5. Feel free to ask us for any help or assistance if you are struggling with your profile. We’ll be happy to draft something for you at no cost after asking a few questions about who you are and what you like to do.

February online dating profiles of the month announced

Each month we reward members who have put some thought into their profile and written something really interesting.

Today we announced the February Profiles of the Month. They are: kaya86, LittlemissP, Shomolu1, JaneyL, mrharrison, loobylu2000, and bongani2000.  They have all received a three month free upgrade or extension to their membership.

We encourage other members to write longer and interesting profiles for next month’s Profile of the Month awards!

Online dating profile tips

Dating sites have been around for a long time now. Yet it is surprising that so many people use them but don’t make the best of the service.

Why waste time in joining if you are not going to give it a decent shot? Here are a few pointers on how to make the best of online dating and give yourself a reasonable chance at success.

Post a photo. I know lots of people don’t want to upload a photo on datepositive.net. But it IS safe and secure. A photo makes your profile stand out. Or even just the knowledge that you have uploaded photo makes a difference.

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Bad online dating profiles

There’s one profile type that always prompts members to comment via email or in feedback forms.

It is the profile created by someone who fills the description box with the letter x. A whole series of them, so you get this: xxxxxxxxxxxx. More than a few, of course – they fill the whole space.

Members who have done searches and come across someone who seems to tick all the boxes are then disappointed when they click into the profile and discover a row of random characters.

It’s almost as bad as saying they will return to complete the profile. Only a bit worse, because the person can’t even be bothered to write that.

Here at the UK’s best HIV dating and Herpes dating website, we’ve had people email usand say these profiles are a waste of time.  They ask: why don’t we do something?

Now, admittedly, this doesn’t happen very often, but lately when a few members have filled the profile space with random letters, I have not even rejected the profiles. Instead, I’ve decided to delete them.

The few profiles a month like this are intriguing. Some such members have filled out all the other information with care, and sometimes even added an image or too.  So it’s unfortunate that they ran out of time, or just didn’t feel like completing the description.

But if our members aren’t happy with these profiles, and if they affect the quality of the site, we’re not going to publish them.

As always, if you need help with any aspect of your profile, let us know and we will be happy to help.