Why you should add a photo to your online dating website profile

In December last year I wrote about the importance of adding a photo to your profile.

Online dating is now mainstream and an accepted way of meeting people. So it can be a wasted effort to create a profile (even a well-written one) without at least one photo.

Even if you say you’ll add a photo in a few days, most members won’t hang around. A few will be patient, but generally speaking what you look like is something you should reveal immediately, or just few days after you’ve joined. Continue reading

Online dating advice: profile quality

On dating websites I come across quite a few profiles saying: I will fill this in later, or: If you have any questions just ask.

I cannot see the point of such profiles. It is a bit like showing up at a speed dating event, a party, or any other kind of gathering, and saying: I am here, but I am not really here. I will look around but share nothing about myself.

I don’t know what kind of people write these profiles (sure, they are busy). But I will say that they give the impression of being lazy, a tiny bit rude, and above the rest of the group. Not very attractive qualities, are they? Continue reading

Online dating photo advice: a photo really does help your chances of success

There’s no doubt that in the world of online dating adding a photo to your profile is a must.

It’s accepted that that profiles with a photo are much more likely to receive more messages from other daters than those without a photo.

Members may think that profiles without photos are not be real. Or they may think they have been posted by people who feel uncomfortable using a dating website. The days of online dating being viewed as a place for misfits or those unlucky in love are long gone. And so if you post without an image, it’s likely that you’ll be viewed as someone who’s not serious about online dating. The result is that you won’t receive many (if any) messages from other users. Continue reading

Online dating advice: better profile headlines

There is more than one approach to writing a profile headline.

Your headline could describe what you are looking for. Here are a couple of good examples:

Seeking walks, talks and hugs – a straight headline but it tells the reader a lot what the member seeks in a partner.

Looking for an upbeat, positive, friendly person – once again a straight headline and very specific in terms of what’s being sought.

Seeking soul mate – a lot of people don’t like this headline but I honestly think it’s okay, if that’s what you’re actually looking for. However, if you use this headline be sure to be interesting and detailed in your actual profile. In other words, tell the reader what you think your soul mate will be like.

Looking for gentle giant/Looking for sassy girl – again, pretty clear in terms of what the member wants.

Use a headline to make a statement or request. This kind of headline is in a sense a combination headline. It says something about you and also describes what you are looking for. Here are a few of examples:

The world is my oyster – this person sounds like an explorer and ready to explore.

Let’s plunder the pot of gold – someone who is ready for adventure and who wants to share the great things life has to offer with a close companion.

Let’s get our boots muddy together – this person wants to wander off the beaten track in life and experience the wild and unusual.

Ask a question. A question headline creates curiosity and a bit of intrigue about your profile and who you are.

What’s the worst that could happen? – this restores the light-heartedness to dating that is so often missing because it can be loaded with expectations. At worst you could have a boring hour with someone not your type. At best you could meet the love of your life!

Can you restore my belly laugh? – here’s someone who definitely connects on the basis of humour. If you strike a cord with each other it could be great.
Fancy a film? – at first it sounds too basic but it’s good because that’s how great dates start, a shared enjoyment of something you both like.

Use humour or your favourite quote. I’ve said this before, you’ve got to be careful with humour because if it goes wrong it can go badly wrong. So play it safe and if you’re not sure, don’t use it.

However, here are some good examples to spur your creative juices:

Profile under construction – funny because it plays on the early days of the Internet when websites were never quite ready. Maybe this is a person in flux. Check out their profile again for new info.

Some like it hot – the title of one of Marilyn’s classics. Intriguing and inviting.

Can I borrow a bowl of sugar? – and why not?! You never know what might happen with the profile next door.

I wandered lonely as a cloud – lovely and romantic from the William Wordsworth poem, slightly sad too.

Dolce vita – the sweet life and someone’s looking to share it.

Only love interests me, and I am only in contact with things I love – a quote from the artist Marc Chagall, quite deep too. Whoever uses this line is pretty serious about love!

I hope these ideas help. Forget the headlines like Hello, or I’m John. Worst of all don’t leave the headline space blank, or fill it with a series of random characters. It just tells readers you can’t really be bothered. No-one stops to read a profile with an empty headline slot or a repeated run of keyboard characters.

Use a bit of imagination. Practice for an hour or so, and pick what you believe is the best. You’ll have something that really does grab the attention of the people you hope to meet, and that’s the first step in getting them to read your profile.

Online dating profile advice: good profile headline examples

Yesterday I wrote about the kinds of profile headlines that probably shouldn’t be used.I asked you to think about describing yourself in a sentence and from that coming up with catchy headline.It sounds harder than it really is. Once you start writing down your thoughts, ideas will come to you. Your probably won’t like the first few ideas you come up with (but maybe you will)! However, after a few lines you’ll be pretty close to what you are looking for.

Here are some examples of good headlines:

Smiles! Lots of them – this says so much about the member. It tells you that they are happy and enjoy life and happiness is important to them.

Skeptical, but intrigued – it’s pretty clear this person isn’t too sure about Internet dating. But they are putting themselves out there and will give it a chance. This is someone who is open to trying new things in life.

Up for recycling – this is cute and funny. It shows that the member is into being Green, and also that she/he has had relationships before but is ready to try again.

It’s more fun together – a basic thing that we sometimes forget; life IS more fun when the company feels just right. This person wants to explore life with a companion.

Friendly, fun, spontaneous and happy – straightforward and it works too because it says so much.

Leaps small buildings in a single bound – a pretty energetic and possibly ambitious person. This headline reveals a great deal about the person’s outlook on life.

Next time I will write about how to take different approaches to profile headline writing.

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