Please watch out for dating website scams and scammers

Online dating can be a great thing if it is used properly by the members of any site. If you fill out a profile, ad a photo and make contact with people your chances of having success and meeting someone are really good. You could find success and happiness.

But not everyone uses dating websites the same way. Some people – a small number – will use online dating to simply get money from others.  A lot of the scams originate in parts of Africa and Eastern Europe.

These people will join a dating website and set up a profile that looks real, but it is a mask for manipulation and fraud. This small number of people will make contact with lots of people and, more often than not, they will send lots of emails and pursue people who they think could be vulnerable or manipulated.  Their goal is to get money from you, and they will be ruthless in their approach.

This minority will be manipulative and appear genuine. They will tell you any kind of desperate and deeply sad story to make you feel sorry for them and want to help.

Please make sure you never, ever under any circumstances send money to someone you communicate with via or any other dating website.

You should immediately end communication with that person, and report them to us. Be sure to send us their username to

Thanks in advance for helping keep a safe and successful dating website. members identify scammer members recently flagged up a scammer who has attempted to scam many dating sites, not just

Members contacted us reporting that a member with the username of Brucediary was attempting to scam members.

One member actually researched this person and said that he appears genuine in his profile until you receive messages. Brucediary claimed that he was in England but is in Nigeria. Continue reading

Online dating scams: use of language a strong clue

The most obvious thing about scammers is the type of language they use in their messages.

Quite often the start off with “Hello Dear”, or they use words of love, affection and familiarity that a non-scammer would not use when making contact with another member for the first time.

Their use of English is usually quite poor and this is because often the scammers are from Africa (and in particular Nigeria) and Russia and former Soviet states.

The tone is too friendly and familiar and sometimes there is an immediate expression of love within the first few messages.  As most of us know, love takes time to grow.  Even if you believe in love at first sight, you have to meet the person first!  But scammers are in a hurry and want to push the contact and connection, regardless of what you want.  This is because they want to accomplish their goal of ripping you off and then disappearing as quickly as possible.

More on scammers to follow soon.

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Online dating scams and scammers; how to spot them and report them

This blog is going to publish a series of articles to help members (and anyone who uses a dating website) spot scams and fake members.

The series will address a number of things such as types of scams to look for, the techniques scammers use, and the typical language and style of their messages. The first article will appear tomorrow.

We hope that by having more information like this members of our site will be better able to spot a scam or fake message.

Date Positive takes scammers and scams very seriously and we do our best to spot scams, remove them from the site and report them to the police if necessary.

Every profile submitted is individually checked by a human being, person, and we respond quickly to member complaints.

If you think you have received a message from a scammer, the first thing to do is stop writing to them and contact site administration and provide us with the potential scammer’s username and contents of the message.

Remember, never, ever send money to someone you do not know via the internet.  Date Positive cannot be responsible for your actions if you do respond to a scammer.

If there is anything else you would like us to talk about in this series, let us know at

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