Online dating photo tips: add a pic for a free upgrade/extention

A lot of people who join our site are still unsure about adding a photo. They feel it’s too unsafe to do so and don’t want to risk anyone seeing their picture.

This is really a sad state of affairs but it does underline the degree of prejudice and stigma that exists in our society towards people with HIV and herpes.

A few people have emailed me and said they are adamant they will not add a photo to their profile. I do reassure them and explain our safety mechanisms, but they are still not convinced.

The best thing I can see happening is that although some people won’t add a photo, they are happy to exchange pics once they are emailing someone. So at least these people do make the best of the opportunity to connect with others.

So until October 8 we are offering a free one-month upgrade or one-month extention to membership to all those who upload a photo. So if you are not yet a member, this is the time to join, add a pic, and get a free extra month on the site.

Anyway, as I have said so many times before, our site has really good privacy options for images – you control who sees your photo.

And, as you all know, profiles with photos get a lot more attention. The photo you select must be a decent head shot, clear, and showing you in a really positive light. A photo can have a very positive impact on the person viewing it, and so with a good picture you can maximise this opportunity.

Don’t select a photo showing you from a distance, no matter how much you love that shot. A pic of you at a distance on a boat cruising around the Green islands may bring happy memories to you, but if your face isn’t clear the member may decide not to make contact.

Your photo should be in focus. Ideally you should be looking directly at the camera so that you are engaging viewers. It can be a casual shot or a more formal photo.

I’ve read articles with mixed views on whether or not you should smile. I think an image with a great and warm smile can really persuade the person looking at your profile. Having said that, I don’t mind serious photos, and there are some great ones on However, if you choose a more serious shot make sure you don’t look miserable or unfriendly.

Feedback indicates that these are the main turnoffs in profile photos: someone sticking their tongue out; making rude/offensive gestures with hands or arms; sitting posing with pet or child; or head tipped back drinking out of a beer/wine bottle. A photo taken by the subject of his/her reflection in the mirror isn’t popular either.

Datepositive understands the need for privacy, especially with a niche dating website like ours. We offer three settings for photos: they can be seen by everyone; just by Premium members and Favourites; or by your favourites only.  This gives members control over who sees their photo and removes any anxiety about privacy issues.

So if you’re serious about online dating, be serious about your photo too. And if you need any help with privacy options or selecting a photo, we’re here to help.

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