HSV2 & Herpes transmission risk while asymptomatic

Q. Can a person get hsv2 from someone who has it but has no symptoms? - A Datepositive.net member.

A. Yes. You can shed virus between attacks, and women in particular may have non-visible internal lesions.

This is called Asymptomatic Transmission. Herpes simplex infections are often spread by people who don’t know they are infected. These people may have symptoms so mild they don’t notice them at all or else don’t recognize them as herpes. Continue reading

Reducing risk of partner getting herpes

Q. I am just starting to see someone who does not have herpes. I’ve told him I have herpes and he has been ok.


We have not had sex as yet. I want to know what can we do to reduce the risk of him getting infected when we make love.


Also, can we have a bath together or share a towel? - A Datepositive.net member.


A. No problem bathing together or sharing a towel, unless you have very obvious visible sore lesions.

You should still use protection for intercourse as you may have internal visible lesions or be shedding HSV. - Dr. Laurence Gerlis.

Bad online dating profiles

There’s one profile type that always prompts members to comment via email or in feedback forms.

It is the profile created by someone who fills the description box with the letter x. A whole series of them, so you get this: xxxxxxxxxxxx. More than a few, of course – they fill the whole space.

Members who have done searches and come across someone who seems to tick all the boxes are then disappointed when they click into the profile and discover a row of random characters.

It’s almost as bad as saying they will return to complete the profile. Only a bit worse, because the person can’t even be bothered to write that.

Here at the UK’s best HIV dating and Herpes dating website, we’ve had people email usand say these profiles are a waste of time.  They ask: why don’t we do something?

Now, admittedly, this doesn’t happen very often, but lately when a few members have filled the profile space with random letters, I have not even rejected the profiles. Instead, I’ve decided to delete them.

The few profiles a month like this are intriguing. Some such members have filled out all the other information with care, and sometimes even added an image or too.  So it’s unfortunate that they ran out of time, or just didn’t feel like completing the description.

But if our members aren’t happy with these profiles, and if they affect the quality of the site, we’re not going to publish them.

As always, if you need help with any aspect of your profile, let us know and we will be happy to help.

Why you should add a photo to your online dating website profile

In December last year I wrote about the importance of adding a photo to your profile.

Online dating is now mainstream and an accepted way of meeting people. So it can be a wasted effort to create a profile (even a well-written one) without at least one photo.

Even if you say you’ll add a photo in a few days, most members won’t hang around. A few will be patient, but generally speaking what you look like is something you should reveal immediately, or just few days after you’ve joined. Continue reading