Find it hard to say hello on IM? Some ideas to get the conversation going

Some time ago we suggested that Wednesday and Thursday evenings should be IM nights on

The idea is to try to get as many people on the site after 7pm on those evenings. If we make this a time for IM and more people log on, the chances of successfully connecting with someone on this hiv dating and herpes dating website are much greater.

A few people have emailed and said it is really hard to just to strike up a conversation with a stranger. We realise that, and so to make it easier here are a few suggestions:

1. Take a risk. That’s what online dating is all about. You have to be able to put yourself out there and make people favourites, send messages, and try to chat. If you don’t get a reply, don’t feel badly, try a new person.

2. Be Polite. You might not be attracted or feel drawn to the person who’s making contact for the first time, but put yourself in their shoes. It’s not easy. So just take a few seconds to say hi. You never know, you might be in for a pleasant surprise :)

3. Asking a couple of questions is a great way of breaking the ice. Ask someone about their job or how their day has been. These are good ways to get the conversation going.

4. If you come on to IM one night and don’t connect with anyone or hit if off in a good way, don’t worry and don’t be put off. Come back and try again. Stay focused and be positive and you will find what you are looking for.

5. Be respectful. If someone says they don’t want to chat, be accepting and see if someone else is available.

We wish you all the best with IM and the whole site. Be daring, get out there and make contact, and make connections happen!

Purpose of a herpes dating website – getting support

In our last post about herpes dating and the purpose of a herpes dating website, we spoke about the need for a herpes dating website because it is very difficult for people with herpes to find a new partner.

The difficulty lies around the fact that often people will reveal that they have herpes to someone and discover that they are rejected, and their new date is not interested. So a herpes dating website deals effectively with that issue by removing the need to have that kind of conversation.

A herpes dating website takes away the need for that kind of conversation. You make your status clear as soon as you join, and do away with the difficulty, discomfort and potential rejection that “that” conversation can lead to.

But another reason for a herpes dating website UK is the issue of support – emotional support for people with herpes. You will find many like-minded who have struggled emotionally and felt down after discovering they have herpes. Some people have blamed themselves and been really hard on themselves, unnecessarily.

At a website like can offer a huge amount of comfort if you are feeling down and are looking for support.  You can find this by connecting with people who have had similar experiences and who understand where you are at. You can receive empathy and understanding at a crucial time in your life when you really need it.

We also have a counsellor section and if you are struggling you can send in a question to and we will happily get counsellor Frankie Hall to answer it.  This is the place to turn to for herpes advice UK, and we are here to help.

Please watch out for dating website scams and scammers

Online dating can be a great thing if it is used properly by the members of any site. If you fill out a profile, ad a photo and make contact with people your chances of having success and meeting someone are really good. You could find success and happiness.

But not everyone uses dating websites the same way. Some people – a small number – will use online dating to simply get money from others.  A lot of the scams originate in parts of Africa and Eastern Europe.

These people will join a dating website and set up a profile that looks real, but it is a mask for manipulation and fraud. This small number of people will make contact with lots of people and, more often than not, they will send lots of emails and pursue people who they think could be vulnerable or manipulated.  Their goal is to get money from you, and they will be ruthless in their approach.

This minority will be manipulative and appear genuine. They will tell you any kind of desperate and deeply sad story to make you feel sorry for them and want to help.

Please make sure you never, ever under any circumstances send money to someone you communicate with via or any other dating website.

You should immediately end communication with that person, and report them to us. Be sure to send us their username to

Thanks in advance for helping keep a safe and successful dating website.

Sexual Health Awareness Week UK 2012

The FPA is holding Sexual Health Awareness Week this week, running form Sept. 17 to Sept. 21.

If you have any questions or concerns about Sexual Health, feel free to send your questions in strictest confidence to the experts at  We have access to sexual health clinic doctor, Dr Laurence Gerlis, and counsellor Frankie Hall.  You can access these experts, free of charge, by going to our Ask the Doctor page or HIV and Herpes Counselling page.

This year, in partnership with Brook, the FPA is launching a major new national campaign XES – We Can’t Go Backwards.

Why the XES We Can’t Go Backwards campaign?

Contraception and other sexual health services, information and education are a basic right, earned through decades of struggle.

But through stealthy funding cuts, sneaky policy changes and increasingly aggressive opposition our rights are being eroded.

Join FPA campaign and speak up for the majority of the population who need and use these essential services and information. Refuse to go backwards!

Take action

Share your experience of contraception and other services. Add your voice to our map and help us build up a picture of what’s happening around the UK.

Purpose of an online Herpes dating site

People often ask the question “Is there a need for a herpes dating website?”

Without doubt the answer is “Yes”. Many people get a sexually transmitted disease, and for some of those people a visit to a doctor or a clinic and a course of antibiotics is the solution.

But for others there is no quick solution. When you find out that you have herpes it is something that you will live with for the rest of your life, even if in your particular case it is asymptomatic or the symptoms are infrequent.

This situation means that if you are responsible person you have to sit down and think very carefully about your current or future sexual partners. However, this is where most people with herpes encounter a problem. They realise that if they are very honest with their future sexual partners they risk being rejected. But if they are dishonest and get involved with someone and then suddenly announced that they have herpes they risk inflicting an enormous surprise or potential shock on their future partner and gain, rejection.

People in this kind of situation often talk about having “that” conversation. The word “that” is referring to the type of conversation people with herpes after have when they must sit down and tell the person they are dating that they do have herpes. “That” conversation is the dreaded conversation and a conversation that nobody likes to have.

So what do you do when you discover that you have herpes and you know in your heart that you are decent and honest person and you don’t want to have sex with someone and risk giving that person herpes?

There is a solution. Today, you can turn to the Internet. There is herpes dating. And there are herpes dating websites. Herpes dating websites are really varied and cater to all kinds of people. The only thing that they have in common is that everybody on the website has herpes. And this is a good thing. Because finally you as an individual don’t have to have that conversation, the conversation that is dreaded, the conversation that anyone with herpes doesn’t want to have.

So if you’ve recently discovered that you have herpes, or have had herpes for a while and feel like you are ready to meet new friends or want to date or begin a relationship, you don’t have to worry about having “that” conversation.

Sites like exist to make it as easy as possible for anyone with herpes to meet someone special find love, meet new friends, find support, or just connect with others. You can forget completely about thinking that you going to be rejected because you have herpes. That’s not going to happen.

At the very least you’ll be able to exchange some e-mails with like-minded people. Hopefully you’ll make some new friends. And the best possible outcome will be that you’ll find someone to love or a relationship, and you won’t have to worry about herpes dating ever again!