Online dating advice: profile quality

On dating websites I come across quite a few profiles saying: I will fill this in later, or: If you have any questions just ask.

I cannot see the point of such profiles. It is a bit like showing up at a speed dating event, a party, or any other kind of gathering, and saying: I am here, but I am not really here. I will look around but share nothing about myself.

I don’t know what kind of people write these profiles (sure, they are busy). But I will say that they give the impression of being lazy, a tiny bit rude, and above the rest of the group. Not very attractive qualities, are they?

Who would go to meet new people and say: “I do not have to do anything, but I will sit here and check you all out; I’ll survey what is going on around here, but not participate.”?

Sure, the internet does give people a feeling that they can behave differently behind a mask of anonymity. But on a dating website?  It doesn’t make sense.  You’re here to connect and meet people. Taking steps towards being open and communicating are what it’s all about.

So at we decided at the beginning that we won’t approve profiles saying information will be added later. How does this benefit the members, the website, or its reputation?  The short and obvious answer is it doesn’t.

Members who submit profiles like this are given a message that the profile has been rejected due to insufficient information.  They are encouraged to add some information, describe themselves and their interests, and resubmit the profile. If members send an empty profile the second time, we delete it.

We believe that one of the key factors making this site a success is the quality of the profiles. So if you don’t have time to write a bit about yourself, wait until you do before joining the site.  Members tell us they find these kind of profiles frustrating and a waste of time, so make an effort and share a bit about yourself. It’s well worth the investment of your time.

If you are unsure about writing your profile, or don’t know what to say, contact us at and we will be genuinely happy to help you write your description.

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