Would you use SMS to pay for upgrade fee?

We are exploring the possibility of adding a new SMS payment system to datepositive.net.

The new system would let members upgrade via SMS.

Before proceeding, we’d like to know if people like the idea and if they think they would pay an upgrade to Premium fee with their mobile phone.

Please tell us if you think you would use this kind of system.

The existing payment systems of Paypal and Nochex will remain in place, so you will always be able to use them.

Dating advice: things women really don’t want to complain about

So you’ve been on datepositive.net for a while and you’ve started dating?

That’s great.  If you are looking for a relationship, either short or long term, it’s worthwhile addressing one of the things that can quickly destroy a good thing – complaining, better known as nagging.

This week, datepositive.net will take a look at the things women complain about in regards to men.  Firstly though it seems that men do think that women like to complain or nag.  I am pretty sure that isn’t true and would like to suggest that the solution is we all try to complain a bit less and try harder to make a partner’s happy, then that’s a good start.

Remember, complaining or criticising can destroy a good thing, so try to keep your relationship a happy and nag-free one.

Too much swearing: Women are guilty of this too.  But it seems that some men use really bad language too often in front of women and for the most part most women don’t like it – especially if there are kids around.

Helping with tidying up or housework: OK, so you are just dating and it’s still a pretty romantic time. Nevertheless, if you help around her place a bit, you can show that you’re a team player and and care about her, especially at the end of a long day.

Expecting her to tidy your place: Connected to the point above is expecting your girlfriend to tidy your place.  If you have had a really busy time and she wants to help out, that’s one thing. But dating a woman in the hopes that she will tidy your mess or cook for you is a big no-no.

Leaving the toilet seat up: This is an old one and it is usually number one of most people’s list.  It’s not just that the seat is up, sometimes a guy’s aim isn’t quite right and the splashing is off-putting.  Women particularly don’t like the seat being left up at night when the might use the toilet in the dark.

Leaving your clothes all around your room: Expecting a romantic and hot night with your girlfriend?  Don’t expect her to be too thrilled to go into your room and find your stuff everywhere, or dirty dishes lying about. Take time to tidy up a bit – it doesn’t have to be perfect – and she will be impressed.

Bringing dirt into the house: This is usually about not wiping feet and/or leaving shoes on.  More and more this is an accepted form of behaviour now when entering someone’s house.  So if you’ve been hiking, gardening or messing around in the garage, give your shoes a quick wipe.

So guys, check out this list and give it a bit of consideration. Women hate to nag, so don’t make it easy for them. Keep the criticisms out of the relationship and love is sure to grow.

Next time around – the things men complain about.

Great reasons for using online dating sites

Dating websites give you a lot of help with what can be a difficult venture. You might be aware of what kind of person you are looking for, but it can still be really hard to find that person.

Today, online dating websites massively improve your chances of finding someone special. There are a lot of reasons for this, such as confidentiality, the number of singles on a site, etc.

You need to think of a dating website such as Datepositive.net as match-making on a much higher level. And you need to take advantage of this higher level. It’s not like going out to a bar, or a party and just hoping to meet up with someone.

With online std dating such as UK hiv dating site datepositive.net, the search for the right person is that bit easier because people are also looking for you! There are many singles who are in your region who want to meet someone too.  That’s what the site is for, unlike a bar or a club.  You get to post a what is hopefully a great profile about yourself and that allows the other members on the site to find you based on what you have posted.

This is why it is so important to take advantage of the opportunity to post a really good profile, you want to attract people and show that you are serious about using the website.

Websites remove the some of (but not all) the disappointment and pain that comes with all most all other types of dating. Although you may find that some people don’t answer your emails sometimes, you can just forget about them.  The reality is that you don’t have to try at a relationship and then be rejected. Instead, you are able to go through the internet to find someone special, allowing you to avoid the rejection that is so common within the physical dating world.

Online dating means that you can get to know someone before you meet. You can get a sense of a person through emails and phone calls – and we always recommend speaking on the phone before meeting.  Let’s face it, you must have had a blind date and then discovered that it is just not right for you. A dating website mans you are able to get to know more about the other person before going on a date.

A dating site like datepositive.net means that you can discover is if someone is interested in you even before you send a message.  By sending a flirt or adding someone to your favourites, you can see if they respond. This take away the sense of risk involved in talking to a complete strange at a bar or a party. It makes contacting people feel easier.

While there has been a lot of discussion around dating website membership fees in the past, the truth is that most dating websites – and especially datepositive.net – is much less expensive than actually dating and this means less financial risk for you.  The truth is that datepositive.net makes dating a cost-efficient way to meet new people.

Confidentiality is an important benefit of online dating as well. You are giving out personal information about yourself, but the website protects you and that’s why its internal messaging system is there for you. You don’t have to risk giving out details that could lead to any further annoyance, such as giving out your address or personal phone number. Instead you can feel confident that all your most important information is kept safe and that no one finds out any close information about you.

Dating online is probably the most convenient and safest method of dating today. It gives you a help when it is needed most, and lets you fit your dating and search into your lifestyle and your schedule.

If you have struggled with the sigma of HIV or Herpes and are looking for an HIV dating website or Herpes dating website, we recommend datepositive.net

 

Free Premium for these profiles . . .‏

Every few months or so we give free upgrades/extra Premium time to what we think are some of the best profiles on www.datepositive.net.

Datepositive.net is the UK’s first ever STD dating site, established in 2006. We are the UK’s best HIV dating and Herpes dating website.

For September, these are the winners. They have been awarded extra Premium time or a free upgrade: Sebastian; Bli55; Telly; Pete25; Nouvelle2011; and Namaste.

The idea with this promotion is to encourage really good profiles on the site and make it more interesting and get more interaction from members.

A survey we did revealed that a lot of people find incomplete profiles, or profiles with hardly any information off-putting. We believe that if we maintain the quality of the profiles at datepositive.net we will have a better website and a better experience for users.

So, if you are a member, write a good profile and you could be our next winner!

Thanks, and enjoy datepositive.net

Datepositive helps deal with stigma

A gay man who became HIV positive in the mid 1990s is using www.datepositive.net because he believes there is a stigma attached to having an STD.

Chris* says that the stigma attached to being HIV positive is worse in the UK than in other countries.

“It is very difficult to live with,” he said. “People can be scornful, and it is due to fear and a lack of knowledge.” Continue reading