Profile of the Month offer back at is bringing back Profile of the Month at the end of October.

Profile of the Month is where we pick two of the best written profiles and give them a free upgrade or a free extension of three months Premium membership.

This is a great win-win for the site and its members. It means the site has better profiles and you’ll enjoy using so much more, and two people get free upgrades. Couldn’t be easier! is the UK’s largest HIV dating and herpes dating website and offers the lowest upgrade fees.

We are into good profiles – why they matter to you and the website

At we are into good profiles in a big way.

This is because good profiles make or break a dating site.

A good profile adds to the quality of a dating website and they can really make a difference on an HIV dating or herpes dating site.  It can be hard enough to meet people, and having an STD makes it harder.

So if you make an effort and write a half-decent profile, just describing what you are like and what you enjoy it does two things.  One, and most importantly, this profile will massively increase your chances of having success at

Number two, good profiles maintain the quality of this, the largest UK STD dating site.  People join, have a look around and think “I like what I see here. It’s probably worth sticking around.”

If you make a bit of an effort, it encourages others to make a bit of an effort.  People who use the site end up having better chances of success. It becomes a win-win situation.

That’s what we want at this hiv dating and herpes dating website – winners and success all around.

So, sadly, If you fill your profile box with random characters or write something like “Just looking around”, we’re sorry, but your profile will be returned to you for a rewrite and after one week, removed from the site.

We don’t want to sound harsh, and we are here to help.  We have a whole section on the blog on dating website profile writing and we are also always here to help you with your profile at

Find it hard to say hello on IM? Some ideas to get the conversation going

Some time ago we suggested that Wednesday and Thursday evenings should be IM nights on

The idea is to try to get as many people on the site after 7pm on those evenings. If we make this a time for IM and more people log on, the chances of successfully connecting with someone on this hiv dating and herpes dating website are much greater.

A few people have emailed and said it is really hard to just to strike up a conversation with a stranger. We realise that, and so to make it easier here are a few suggestions:

1. Take a risk. That’s what online dating is all about. You have to be able to put yourself out there and make people favourites, send messages, and try to chat. If you don’t get a reply, don’t feel badly, try a new person.

2. Be Polite. You might not be attracted or feel drawn to the person who’s making contact for the first time, but put yourself in their shoes. It’s not easy. So just take a few seconds to say hi. You never know, you might be in for a pleasant surprise :)

3. Asking a couple of questions is a great way of breaking the ice. Ask someone about their job or how their day has been. These are good ways to get the conversation going.

4. If you come on to IM one night and don’t connect with anyone or hit if off in a good way, don’t worry and don’t be put off. Come back and try again. Stay focused and be positive and you will find what you are looking for.

5. Be respectful. If someone says they don’t want to chat, be accepting and see if someone else is available.

We wish you all the best with IM and the whole site. Be daring, get out there and make contact, and make connections happen!

Purpose of an online Herpes dating site

People often ask the question “Is there a need for a herpes dating website?”

Without doubt the answer is “Yes”. Many people get a sexually transmitted disease, and for some of those people a visit to a doctor or a clinic and a course of antibiotics is the solution.

But for others there is no quick solution. When you find out that you have herpes it is something that you will live with for the rest of your life, even if in your particular case it is asymptomatic or the symptoms are infrequent.

This situation means that if you are responsible person you have to sit down and think very carefully about your current or future sexual partners. However, this is where most people with herpes encounter a problem. They realise that if they are very honest with their future sexual partners they risk being rejected. But if they are dishonest and get involved with someone and then suddenly announced that they have herpes they risk inflicting an enormous surprise or potential shock on their future partner and gain, rejection.

People in this kind of situation often talk about having “that” conversation. The word “that” is referring to the type of conversation people with herpes after have when they must sit down and tell the person they are dating that they do have herpes. “That” conversation is the dreaded conversation and a conversation that nobody likes to have.

So what do you do when you discover that you have herpes and you know in your heart that you are decent and honest person and you don’t want to have sex with someone and risk giving that person herpes?

There is a solution. Today, you can turn to the Internet. There is herpes dating. And there are herpes dating websites. Herpes dating websites are really varied and cater to all kinds of people. The only thing that they have in common is that everybody on the website has herpes. And this is a good thing. Because finally you as an individual don’t have to have that conversation, the conversation that is dreaded, the conversation that anyone with herpes doesn’t want to have.

So if you’ve recently discovered that you have herpes, or have had herpes for a while and feel like you are ready to meet new friends or want to date or begin a relationship, you don’t have to worry about having “that” conversation.

Sites like exist to make it as easy as possible for anyone with herpes to meet someone special find love, meet new friends, find support, or just connect with others. You can forget completely about thinking that you going to be rejected because you have herpes. That’s not going to happen.

At the very least you’ll be able to exchange some e-mails with like-minded people. Hopefully you’ll make some new friends. And the best possible outcome will be that you’ll find someone to love or a relationship, and you won’t have to worry about herpes dating ever again!

Would you use SMS to pay for upgrade fee?

We are exploring the possibility of adding a new SMS payment system to

The new system would let members upgrade via SMS.

Before proceeding, we’d like to know if people like the idea and if they think they would pay an upgrade to Premium fee with their mobile phone.

Please tell us if you think you would use this kind of system.

The existing payment systems of Paypal and Nochex will remain in place, so you will always be able to use them.