Reducing risk of partner getting herpes

Q. I am just starting to see someone who does not have herpes. I’ve told him I have herpes and he has been ok.


We have not had sex as yet. I want to know what can we do to reduce the risk of him getting infected when we make love.


Also, can we have a bath together or share a towel? - A Datepositive.net member.


A. No problem bathing together or sharing a towel, unless you have very obvious visible sore lesions.

You should still use protection for intercourse as you may have internal visible lesions or be shedding HSV. - Dr. Laurence Gerlis.

Bad online dating profiles

There’s one profile type that always prompts members to comment via email or in feedback forms.

It is the profile created by someone who fills the description box with the letter x. A whole series of them, so you get this: xxxxxxxxxxxx. More than a few, of course – they fill the whole space.

Members who have done searches and come across someone who seems to tick all the boxes are then disappointed when they click into the profile and discover a row of random characters.

It’s almost as bad as saying they will return to complete the profile. Only a bit worse, because the person can’t even be bothered to write that.

Here at the UK’s best HIV dating and Herpes dating website, we’ve had people email usand say these profiles are a waste of time.  They ask: why don’t we do something?

Now, admittedly, this doesn’t happen very often, but lately when a few members have filled the profile space with random letters, I have not even rejected the profiles. Instead, I’ve decided to delete them.

The few profiles a month like this are intriguing. Some such members have filled out all the other information with care, and sometimes even added an image or too.  So it’s unfortunate that they ran out of time, or just didn’t feel like completing the description.

But if our members aren’t happy with these profiles, and if they affect the quality of the site, we’re not going to publish them.

As always, if you need help with any aspect of your profile, let us know and we will be happy to help.

Datepositive.net – largest HIV online dating site in UK

It’s official – datepositive.net is the UK’s largest HIV online dating site.

After taking out a membership in hivmatch.co.uk, we were able to compare and discovered that we have more members with HIV on our site than hivmatch.co.uk. As well, we also have more quality profiles.

After looking through profiles at hivmatch.co.uk, we can safely say that our profiles are contain more information and are therefore more interesting to other members. This increases the chance of messages and flirts. Continue reading

Online dating website profiles checked by people not machines equals quality

Every profile submitted to Datepositive is checked manually by a person and not by a machine.

Datepositive.net is the UK’s top HIV dating and Herpes dating website, and is committed to quality and customer service.

The procedure has helped our Datepositive become successful.  The focus on quality means that most people put an effort into writing a profile – so you’re not going to click on a profile in the search page and find that it is empty.

Datepositive has a mandatory number of characters that must be entered in the profile description field. I’d guess that 95 % of members make an effort and write a fair or good profile.

Occasionally we have profiles submitted that are full of random characters, and we take a pretty strong position on this kind of profile – they are deleted.

To be honest, I don’t understand why anyone would join a dating website and not bother to write a half-decent profile. What’s the point? Your profile page is designed to make you appear interesting – so if it’s empty or shows no effort you won’t receive any interest from other members.

Datepositive aims to attract genuine people who really want to connect with other people.  By encouraging people to write good profiles, we’re putting the needs of genuine members first.

I’d say that if a dating website is judged on the quality of its profiles, then we’re doing pretty well.

Checking profiles is also one of the many steps we take to protect your safety. Everything you see on the site has been approved by our team. And we monitor the Datepositive daily to deal with any issues.  If you have a complaint, feel like a profile looks fake, or have a problem with another member, send an email and we will respond the same day.

Datepositive.net member takes part in video about boyfriend who gave her herpes

A Datepositive member who has herpes and is using datepositive.net for herpes dating has been featured in an online production about STDs.

The online magazine TrueTube contacted Date Positive for help with production of one film in a series about STDs.

Lynn (not her real name) came forward to be a part of the production so that people could hear how devastating it can be when you get an STD from your partner – and you don’t know that your partner has an STD. Continue reading