Dating advice: things men really do not want to have to complain about

Men do not really nag, do they?  Well, a small number of them do, but most of them may make a comment or two and then give up, and possibly walk away.

So if you want to find out how to keep your relationship safe, consider this list of things that men don’t want to hear.  Obviously we’re not advising you to not communicate, but if you take a look at some of these openers, you will understand where we’re coming from, and save a lot of complaining or even nagging!

Constantly asking how you look, or if you look OK: Asking once in a while is OK.  It shows that you value your partner’s views and want him to think you look good.  But asking too much will give the impression that you are insecure and lack confidence, which over the long term can be a real turn off.  Also, asking if you look fat is another issue.  (Is there really a right answer to that one!). Pretty soon you are going to start hearing him say “Stop asking me that!”.

Talking about your ex, or saying you’re friends with your ex: It’s great that you are friends with your ex, or maybe even all of them. But constantly talking about them, introducing them all at once or asking if they can hang out with you both on Saturday evening is not a good idea.  How would you feel if your guy kept talking about his ex and wanted to hang out with her?  Not good, right?  Right.  People want to feel special and the focus of attention.  That’s part of the point of a date.  Some guys don’t mind if you’re friends with your ex, but most do. So sound him out and respect his feelings first, especially if you have just started seeing each other.

Telling him that he looks a bit like your dad, or that he makes you think of your brother: Saying this to a guy who is a friend is one thing, but to someone you are about to date, or your new boyfriend is a bad idea.  And if you keep saying it, he’ll soon ask you not too.  A guy wants to hear that he his sexy, smart and loveable in a way that only a boyfriend can be.

Letting him know that you tell your mother or your best friend everything: This really is a bad idea and it’s probably something you should stop doing.  No guy wants to know that what he is doing or saying is being discussed by you and other people he might not know.  It will feel like a betrayal and will affect the trust in the relationship.  A man needs to know that the relationship is special and not discussed by others.  This is the kind of thing that can lead to a break-up pretty quickly!

Telling him he never does something (such as buy you flowers, chocolate, calls after work): This is criticising, which we all know can sometimes lead a person to feel resentful and deflated.  If you want someone to do something, plant the seed of the idea as a positive suggestion, such as “I’d love to hear from you after work”, or “I love fresh flowers.  It would be great if they were from you.”

Telling him he is boring:  If he is, then again, why are you with him.  You may have to be clear and say you are just not that into fishing, golf, football, cooking, carpentry, whatever it is he keeps going on about.  But even if you are not, try and show a bit of interest and encouragement.

Telling him over and over that you don’t like his family or his friends: He is with you and either really likes you or loves you.  But his family and/or friends are most probably really important to him.  If one person is very problematic and doesn’t like you, and that’s causing friction, then try to talk about the issue and agree a solution.

Comparing him to someone else:  This is along the lines of telling him he never does something.  The overall message speaks for itself. You’re telling him you aren’t happy with him and/or his behaviour and that he is not measuring up to your (unrealistic?) expectations.  If you really do feel this way, you have to ask if you are with the right guy.  And if you keep comparing him, he will either ask you to stop, or break up with you.

Asking him who he’s attracted to and who he thinks is pretty: This may sound harmless but if the conversation happens over and over it can lead to trouble.  As well, he can feel as though he is being manipulated and may not know how to answer.

Asking him about the future, and hinting at living together or marriage: If he hasn’t asked you, chances are he is not ready, or doesn’t want to take the next step.  It doesn’t hurt to have a conversation and make sure you are on the same page.  No one wants to date a guy for two years and then find out that all along he had been planing to go to Australia. But by the same token don’t keep asking him the same question over and over.  That’s the last thing he will want to complain about!

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Great reasons for using online dating sites

Dating websites give you a lot of help with what can be a difficult venture. You might be aware of what kind of person you are looking for, but it can still be really hard to find that person.

Today, online dating websites massively improve your chances of finding someone special. There are a lot of reasons for this, such as confidentiality, the number of singles on a site, etc.

You need to think of a dating website such as Datepositive.net as match-making on a much higher level. And you need to take advantage of this higher level. It’s not like going out to a bar, or a party and just hoping to meet up with someone.

With online std dating such as UK hiv dating site datepositive.net, the search for the right person is that bit easier because people are also looking for you! There are many singles who are in your region who want to meet someone too.  That’s what the site is for, unlike a bar or a club.  You get to post a what is hopefully a great profile about yourself and that allows the other members on the site to find you based on what you have posted.

This is why it is so important to take advantage of the opportunity to post a really good profile, you want to attract people and show that you are serious about using the website.

Websites remove the some of (but not all) the disappointment and pain that comes with all most all other types of dating. Although you may find that some people don’t answer your emails sometimes, you can just forget about them.  The reality is that you don’t have to try at a relationship and then be rejected. Instead, you are able to go through the internet to find someone special, allowing you to avoid the rejection that is so common within the physical dating world.

Online dating means that you can get to know someone before you meet. You can get a sense of a person through emails and phone calls – and we always recommend speaking on the phone before meeting.  Let’s face it, you must have had a blind date and then discovered that it is just not right for you. A dating website mans you are able to get to know more about the other person before going on a date.

A dating site like datepositive.net means that you can discover is if someone is interested in you even before you send a message.  By sending a flirt or adding someone to your favourites, you can see if they respond. This take away the sense of risk involved in talking to a complete strange at a bar or a party. It makes contacting people feel easier.

While there has been a lot of discussion around dating website membership fees in the past, the truth is that most dating websites – and especially datepositive.net – is much less expensive than actually dating and this means less financial risk for you.  The truth is that datepositive.net makes dating a cost-efficient way to meet new people.

Confidentiality is an important benefit of online dating as well. You are giving out personal information about yourself, but the website protects you and that’s why its internal messaging system is there for you. You don’t have to risk giving out details that could lead to any further annoyance, such as giving out your address or personal phone number. Instead you can feel confident that all your most important information is kept safe and that no one finds out any close information about you.

Dating online is probably the most convenient and safest method of dating today. It gives you a help when it is needed most, and lets you fit your dating and search into your lifestyle and your schedule.

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Surge in interest in online dating

The holidays may be the time for a new relationship, with some online dating sites seeing an average of 40% more page views per user between Christmas and New Year.

“It’s been a trend that we’ve been noticing for many years now,” says Mamboo’s COO, Gloria Diez “Could it be more than just the effect of the mistletoe?”

The company is reporting some interesting statistics, including members sending 30% more online gifts, as well as a 38% increase in spending on the site. The number of messages sent and received by members also doubled.

The company made contact with two psychologists to find out why. Barbara Lavi, a Family Therapy Specialist, was happy to share her theories: “At this time of year everyone is flooded with images of family and companionship. Singles may see this as a complete contrast to who they are, so set out to change things for the better,” she advises.

Isabel Moya, Youth Psychology Therapist, had this to say: ”During the Holidays, singles are put in a tough position – having to cope with and navigate social situations in which they are often the only person without a partner. This can be very uncomfortable, prompting a desire for change,” she explains.

Some sites also forecasts a rather romantic January, with 60% more traffic to their site expected during the first two weeks of the year.

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December Deal adds more than 1000 members to site

Datepositive.net’s December Deal has added more than 1000 members to the website.

The deal offered a one-month membership for just one pound to new and exiting members.

Premium members could take advantage of the offer by adding a month to their Premium subscription for just £1.

We are more than happy with the results of the sale, and hope that existing members and new members have enjoyed the offer.

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