We are into good profiles – why they matter to you and the website

At datepositive.net we are into good profiles in a big way.

This is because good profiles make or break a dating site.

A good profile adds to the quality of a dating website and they can really make a difference on an HIV dating or herpes dating site.  It can be hard enough to meet people, and having an STD makes it harder.

So if you make an effort and write a half-decent profile, just describing what you are like and what you enjoy it does two things.  One, and most importantly, this profile will massively increase your chances of having success at datepositve.net.

Number two, good profiles maintain the quality of this, the largest UK STD dating site.  People join, have a look around and think “I like what I see here. It’s probably worth sticking around.”

If you make a bit of an effort, it encourages others to make a bit of an effort.  People who use the site end up having better chances of success. It becomes a win-win situation.

That’s what we want at this hiv dating and herpes dating website – winners and success all around.

So, sadly, If you fill your profile box with random characters or write something like “Just looking around”, we’re sorry, but your profile will be returned to you for a rewrite and after one week, removed from the site.

We don’t want to sound harsh, and we are here to help.  We have a whole section on the blog on dating website profile writing and we are also always here to help you with your profile at info@datepositive.net

Find it hard to say hello on IM? Some ideas to get the conversation going

Some time ago we suggested that Wednesday and Thursday evenings should be IM nights on datepositive.net.

The idea is to try to get as many people on the site after 7pm on those evenings. If we make this a time for IM and more people log on, the chances of successfully connecting with someone on this hiv dating and herpes dating website are much greater.

A few people have emailed and said it is really hard to just to strike up a conversation with a stranger. We realise that, and so to make it easier here are a few suggestions:

1. Take a risk. That’s what online dating is all about. You have to be able to put yourself out there and make people favourites, send messages, and try to chat. If you don’t get a reply, don’t feel badly, try a new person.

2. Be Polite. You might not be attracted or feel drawn to the person who’s making contact for the first time, but put yourself in their shoes. It’s not easy. So just take a few seconds to say hi. You never know, you might be in for a pleasant surprise :)

3. Asking a couple of questions is a great way of breaking the ice. Ask someone about their job or how their day has been. These are good ways to get the conversation going.

4. If you come on to IM one night and don’t connect with anyone or hit if off in a good way, don’t worry and don’t be put off. Come back and try again. Stay focused and be positive and you will find what you are looking for.

5. Be respectful. If someone says they don’t want to chat, be accepting and see if someone else is available.

We wish you all the best with IM and the whole site. Be daring, get out there and make contact, and make connections happen!

A bit of effort with your online dating profile goes a long way

Lots of people join datepositive.net every week, but only a few will have success.

These members may blame the other members or the actual site, but my guess is that they haven’t put enough effort into their online profile.

Now, I know I have written a lot about this in the past, but the message is one that can’t be delivered too often. Making an effort with your profile and including the right things can really lead to success.

In fact, I have to say that whenever I get feedback from people with success stories they are usually the ones who have a pretty good profile and who have made contact with others.

So after managing this hiv dating and herpes dating site for almost five years, here are a few things that seem to come up time and time again with profiles. Paying some attention to these potential problems won’t take a lot of time and could make your membership really worthwhile.

1. Pick a good username, something that tells other members something about you. Just using your name or a mix of letters and numbers isn’t going to help anyone. Remember, your profile will be glanced at in the search results. Which profile would you be tempted to read? Sunshine_and_smiles, or hsn46?

2. A big turn off is writing a list of what you don’t want, and then referring to the reader as you, as in You will be outgoing, etc. Now, we all know that no one wants to date a loser or a heavy drinker. But writing a list of characteristics you won’t entertain is very off-putting and makes you sound too fussy.

3. Don’t copy other chunks of text from other people’s profiles. If someone is searching the site they are going to see that your profile (or the other one you’ve copied) isn’t unique and changes are neither one of you will get any attention. Besides, you are you and people want to hear about who you are.

4. These days more than one photo is usually not enough. Invest in some good pictures showing you in different settings and tag the pictures too, saying where you are. This is especially good if you like to travel.

5. Feel free to ask us for any help or assistance if you are struggling with your profile. We’ll be happy to draft something for you at no cost after asking a few questions about who you are and what you like to do.

February online dating profiles of the month announced

Each month we reward members who have put some thought into their profile and written something really interesting.

Today we announced the February Profiles of the Month. They are: kaya86, LittlemissP, Shomolu1, JaneyL, mrharrison, loobylu2000, and bongani2000.  They have all received a three month free upgrade or extension to their membership.

We encourage other members to write longer and interesting profiles for next month’s Profile of the Month awards!

Online dating advice: profile quality

On dating websites I come across quite a few profiles saying: I will fill this in later, or: If you have any questions just ask.

I cannot see the point of such profiles. It is a bit like showing up at a speed dating event, a party, or any other kind of gathering, and saying: I am here, but I am not really here. I will look around but share nothing about myself.

I don’t know what kind of people write these profiles (sure, they are busy). But I will say that they give the impression of being lazy, a tiny bit rude, and above the rest of the group. Not very attractive qualities, are they? Continue reading